Jul 26 2006
Time to move on
[tag]girlfriend[/tag]I haven’t posted here for quite some time and apologize for that, I’m sure I’ve lost a lot of visitors as a result but blogging is one of those things that is hard to do continuously. Anyway my life has had some major changes lately as I am now single and living alone once again so maybe I can start posting in the Torrid Tales category again! 
I won’t get into the details of what happened here as if you know me well enough then you can talk to me in person and if not then it is none of your business! It has caused me to do a lot of thinking and contemplation though making me believe it really was for the best after the initial shock of it all so I have begun the process of moving on.
I have been going out a lot once again, which is great as it is something I’ve really missed doing especially catching up with friends I had lost contact with along with making new friends. Looking back I’m not exactly sure why I stopped going out like that and hanging out with my friends but it isn’t a good indication of the health of my relationship at the time so that is something I’m never going to let happen again.
In relationships you obviously need to make some sacrifices through compromises but at the same time you need to find the right balance as if you start losing your own life then you lose your identity and become just one half of a relationship instead of an individual as part of a couple. A good relationship is where you can be yourself and she can be herself, then together you can be the combination of both your individualities so really a relationship has three entities - yourself, your significant other and the relationship itself. Looking back that isn’t what we had and I don’t even know if we ever really had it so it is time to move on.